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Youโre not alone. What you feel is more common than you think.
How Do I Know? Because I've Been There.
How do I know? I was there too. My name is Jennifer and I’m the founder of Real Self-Esteem.
You’re not alone. What you feel is more common than you think. Many women (no matter their age), at some point in their life have silently struggled with one or all the following symptoms of low self-esteem:
- Emotional rollercoaster rides between the extremes of overwhelming anxiety, fear, worry, anger, and depression
- Crippling social fear and awkwardness that keeps you from exploring new social groups
- Body Image issues that zap your confidence and make you feel hideous when you look in the mirror
- Feeling inadequate, constantly comparing yourself to other people
- Fear of rejection and “need to please” that leads to painful relationship mistakes
- Extreme fear of failure that keeps you “stuck” in life - instead of making progress in your career
I wasn’t always a confident self-esteem expert.
It was several years ago that I was in my college dorm room. It was a beautiful sunny day. I was in my typical blue jeans, t-shirt and black jacket. None of my roommates were in our apartment and I was all alone.
Even though I was fully dressed and ready to go to class, I didn’t make it to my morning class or any other classes that day. Instead of going outside, I locked myself in my room so no one could barge in, sat inside my closet, and shut myself in.
As soon as the closet doors closed I started crying uncontrollably. I was in a deep depression.
I had tried really hard to “pull myself together” that day but I still felt like I was falling apart.
Painful memories and emotions that I thought I had put away forever all came rushing back to my mind at once. I didn’t know what to do with them or how to get rid of them.
I thought things could never get worse…and I knew I had to make a change, deep down inside…Just like you know you desire a change, because like me, you deserve to live a life where feel confident, and no longer feel like you’re not “enough” in meeting the challenges of daily life.
Yes, I knew something had to change, but one more thing had to happen in order to push me over the edge…
I curled up for hours in my closet crying buckets of tears, having a really low but private moment… (what I later came to know as a self-esteem crash.)
And then the worst thing happened:
Suddenly I heard the sound voices and then the terrifying creaking sound of my bedroom door opening.
“Who is that?” I thought.
As my closet doors swung open… I instantly looked up and saw five confused faces staring down at me (a curled up mess on the closet floor).
“Jennifer? Are you ok? What are you doing?” they asked.
I made a promise to myself at the very moment to do whatever it took to figure out why I had such been on such a strong emotional rollercoaster. On the outside, I looked fine. I was a leader, I was popular, I had friends, but on the inside I felt like I was always on pins and needles.
If I accidentally did or said something that I thought was wrong, or if someone I deeply cared about rejected me in some way, I could instantly spiral down into the most devastating embarrassment, self-hatred, and depression.
I would beat myself up, thinking things like “What’s wrong with me? Why am I like this? Why can’t I just be normal and happy like everyone else? ”
The only thing I knew was that I just felt completely wrong and miserable, like no matter how hard I tried— no matter how hard I worked— I just couldn’t measure up. And the pressure of it all was just getting to me. And I started a journey that day, to find out what was going on with me.
How do you go from hating yourself to loving yourself?
I researched everything I could find, spent hours looking through psychology books and confusing medical websites that talked about my symptoms. I read the Bible and prayed to God looking for spiritual answers. I just needed change.
Through it all I discovered that low self-esteem was my real issue. Whew! I wasn’t crazy. What a relief! Low self-esteem (actually severe low self-esteem) was at the root of my constant fear, avoidance of new social groups, hating my body, my on and off depression, and stormy anger.
I had all sorts of questions like -
- What is self-esteem?
- What is low self-esteem?
- How do I build confidence?
When finally found those answers- I realized that women all over the world were feeling the same thing I used to - and that there was a real need to share that information in a simple, practical, and easy to understand way. The rest is history, and RealSelfesteem.com (formerly Help-My-Self-Esteem.com) was born.
THE 4 STEP GET R.E.A.L. SYSTEM
Through my years of research I uncovered a simple 4-step formula for overcoming low self-esteem. And this website is all about sharing these simple steps with you so you can build strong self-esteem and learn how to be confident.
The entire website is Based on the 4 Step Get R.E.A.L.! System for Overcoming Low Self-Esteem
- R. ealize the Reality of low self-esteem. – The first step in overcoming low self esteem is being able to answer the question – “What Is It?” What are the symptoms? How did you get it? How does it cause you to react differently than others? [Add Confident Me Ads On the Bottom of These Original Pages]
- E. ngage in Positive Thinking. Your view of yourself is what is creating the fear and the anxiety in these normal everyday situations. You’re going to learn how to turn that negative voice off, so you can move forward with your life boldly and do all things you’ve wanted to do for so long. [Add Confident Me Ads On the Bottom of These Original Pages]
- A.ccept the Fact that You’re Not Perfect. –In order to have healthy self you have to understand and appreciate your strengths and weaknesses. This module is all about helping you do that in a balanced way. [Add Confident Me Ads On the Bottom of These Original Pages]
- L. earn to Love Yourself Unconditionally. Love heals. In the module you’ll learn how to love yourself in a practical way – which will build a strong foundation for lasting healthy self-esteem and confidence. [Add Confident Me Ads On the Bottom of These Original Pages]
Around here, we also believe that building a strong relationship with a loving God, is a major key to real confidence. I know I would not have been able to overcome low self-esteem without a deep realization of how much God loves me and the strength He gives.
I want to share that gift with you too. He is the ultimate source of true change, unshakable confidence and the heart healing we all want.
“For the Lord shall be your confidence, firm and strong… – Proverbs 3:26 AMP
Wouldn’t it be great to feel good about yourself no matter what happens in your day, no matter what other people do… good, bad or ugly? This website is designed to get you to that place within yourself. A space where you 100% love yourself and are happy in your own skin.
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